Im a Bit Sick of Hearing on Social Media that Therapy; Which has Been Around for Centuries is a Waste of Time! I Feel its a Bit of a Lazy Statement!

Therapy Is Not Self-Indulgent. It’s Self-Responsibility.

Let’s cut through the noise: going to therapy is not a luxury. It’s not self-indulgent. It’s self-responsibility.

There’s this narrative floating around that therapy is some kind of pampering session for people who “have the time” to “navel gaze.” . As if investing in your mental health is a spa day. Let me tell you, real deep therapy is hard work, ( ask anyounewho has enguagedin it!) It's showing up to confront your patterns, your triggers, and your blind spots. It’s stepping into a space where you are seen, with empathy and open curiosity, challenged, and held accountable. That’s not indulgence. That’s courage.

The Ripple Effect Starts With You

When you do the work in therapy, you’re not just changing your life. You’re changing how you show up for the people closest to you. Your partner feels it when you're less reactive. Your kids notice when you break generational patterns instead of repeating them. Your friends feel safer being real with you because you’ve made peace with your own mess and not dumped it on them, thats not to say when we are stuck its not okay to keep asking to be heard, but there comes a time when we need to take it to a, neutral, non judgmental person to be able to be able to see in our own mirror, also, healing is contagiouse,your friends may follow.

The world isn’t going to magically become a kinder, more compassionate place because you’ve read a few mindfulness quotes. But when you hold yourself accountable for your emotional baggage, you stop dumping it on other people. That ripple effect? That’s real change. That’s how we start shifting collective dynamics — one person owning their inner landscape at a time, understanding it is up to you alone to shift it, this is not always easy, especially if you did not get good support as a child, it can be triggering, this is a good thing in a safe therapeutic environment where you can explore it and how it feels in your body which has carried these feelings often for years!

Mindfulness and Nature Are Tools, Not Substitutes!

Now, let’s talk about mindfulness, meditation, walking, and nature. These practices are so vauluableand im always advocating for them . Taking time to breathe, to slow down, to listen to yourself in stillness, this is essential.

Walking in nature isn’t a luxury for most; it’s a reset button for a mind overstimulated by noise and screens. These moments of self-reflection between therapy sessions help integrate what you’ve uncovered. They give you space to process, to reconnect with your body, to ground yourself.

But let’s be clear; these are not replacements for therapy.

Sitting with your thoughts on a forest path is not the same as being held in a therapeutic space by someone trained to mirror you, challenge you, and guide you through the layers you can't peel back on your own. Self-reflection is vital, but without the structure and safety of therapy, it’s easy to stay in your comfort zone, circling the same surface-level insights.

Therapy Is an Act of Service

Here’s the bottom line: doing your inner work is not about becoming a “better version of yourself” for Instagram. It’s about creating less harm in the spaces you occupy. It’s about being someone who can navigate conflict with grace, who can sit with discomfort without needing to offload it onto others, who can raise children without passing down unprocessed trauma.

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herapy isn’t selfish. It’s selfless. Because when you take responsibility for your healing, you make life better not just for you, but for everyone around you. You stop recycling pain into the world.

So no, therapy is not indulgent. It’s necessary. It’s responsible. And the world needs more of it.